Sometimes I hear or read things with which I disagree,
or, I encounter something which casts groups with whom I am affiliated in a
negative light and I find myself thinking, “Hey, what’s going on here? This is not
fair. The person(s) responsible for that communication need to apologize. That
bothers me!”
But then—when I’m thinking right—this type of realization
occurs to me, “Hey, relax. People are allowed to express opinions even if you
don’t agree with them. Lighten up. Everyone doesn’t think the same way you do.
Everyone doesn’t see the world the same way you do. Don’t be a baby.”
My dear friends, I honestly believe it will be in our own
best interests for all of us to stop being so overly sensitive. (Including me.)
Also it will help us to stop treating everyone like wimps who cannot handle any
type of disagreement with their views and opinions, or any criticism of groups
with whom they may be associated.
Please understand, I am not endorsing disrespectful,
dishonest, hateful language. I believe it is important for us to be loving,
gracious and respectful toward each other. I really do.
Also, I am not writing this post in anger. I would
honestly like to be helpful. I am concerned. I write this in an effort to offer
some thoughts about the general direction of our culture. It seems we are
becoming overly sensitive, unable to confront any type of communication which
might challenge our thinking or point-of-view. This inability to hear any
challenge to our position on matters will not serve us well.
Of course, this cultural over-sensitivity is only likely
to change if people will stop claiming to be victimized by any minor remark
with which they disagree. As I admitted earlier, I know the feeling. I don’t
like hearing ideas that challenge my positions. It is easy to feel defensive
and cry, “You can’t say that! I’m very delicate!” But come on, we can handle some
differing opinions once in a while, can’t we?
In the book of Acts there is a story about Paul debating
Epicurean and Stoic philosophers while he was in Athens. It also mentions that
Paul went out to speak in the public square “daily.” In other words, he was
sharing the gospel message with people who had not heard it before. He was
using reason, logic and sharing evidence from his own eyewitness testimony.
Everyone did not believe him. Everyone did not agree with him. In one passage
we are told the philosophers said this about Paul: “What’s this babbler trying
to say with these strange ideas he’s picked up?” (Acts 17:18)
Paul did not respond to these comments by crying and
trying to create a safe zone in which no one could respond in ways that
challenged what he was saying. He did not say, “They called me a babbler. That’s
it, I’m going to get a lawyer.”
He kept on going back and talking, listening, reasoning,
debating. He realized everyone would not agree with him. Reasonable, mature
adults understand this reality.
I acknowledge that some language can be incredibly mean,
hurtful, inappropriate, rude, irresponsible, offensive and even destructive. Again,
I am not condoning such behavior. But I’m concerned we are becoming too small,
too weak, too insular and too willing to be sheltered from differing ideas and
opinions.
We need to be bigger than this. I say this with love: Our
culture needs to grow up.