Monday, December 31, 2012

Making Great Choices In 2012 - Happy New Year!


Every day, this life which God has given presents us with options.  We can choose between wrong and right; harmful activities or healthy activities; the self-directed way or God’s way. 

We can choose to withdraw from life and try to close our eyes to reality or we can choose to engage fully with our eyes opened to the truth and whole-heartedly embrace life.

I pray that 2013 will be a year of great choices and true life—abundant life—for all of us.

Happy New Year!

Love and blessings,

Dan

Sunday, December 30, 2012

A Trip To The Flea Market - Video


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A Heavy Negotiation At The Flea Market


We went to the giant flea market in Fort Myers today.  Immediately upon entering the gates of the flea market, my father-in-law entered into a tough negotiation with a lady who owns one of the produce stands.  For my father-in-law and the produce lady the negotiation was tough, crucial and even slightly testy, at times. 

For me, the essence of the negotiation involved my bewilderment at the fact that they were putting this much effort into a disagreement involving 50 cents.

Fortunately, a nearby vendor offered deep fried Oreos—which I had never tried before—so, I was able to quietly sidle away from the negotiation and direct my attention to truly important matters.


Savoring The Gift of Life

The moments of our lives fly by very quickly.  If you haven’t noticed that already, just wait.  You will.  So it is helpful for us to pay attention and be engaged.  Be fully present to notice and even to savor this gift of life that God has given to us.

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Is Jesus Right? I'm Trusting That He Is


Some people are concerned that if they live the way God calls us to live it will ruin their fun and cramp their style. That’s why it’s interesting to consider that Jesus said that actually the best way for us to live our lives is to die to ourselves and live for Him.

“What? That’s crazy!” Some will protest. “That would be confining and boring.”

So, then, the questions are:  Is Jesus right?  Does Jesus really know best?  Does Jesus really know the most fulfilling, most effective, most meaningful way for you and I to live our lives?

I can’t claim that I follow Him perfectly, but I’m trusting that He does know best.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Just Saw Jack Reacher... I Think


We just saw Jack Reacher, the Tom Cruise movie.  It’s a pretty good action film.  The singing and dancing was terrific; the costumes were beautifully done; and wow, who knew that Cruise had such a wonderful singing voice!?! 

…Oh wait a minute.  You know what?  …It’s suddenly occurring to me that I may have wandered into Les Miserables by mistake.  Hmm, that would explain why the time frame of the movie resembled France in the early 1800’s—and it would explain why Tom looked so much like Anne Hathaway.

I really need to start paying more attention when the usher points out the correct theater number.

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

I'm Not Yet One Of The Seniors


I look at least 15 years older than my actual age (which is 54). In Florida—where I’m taking a break—this creates mildly irritating situations for me because the retired seniors think I’m one of them.

Seventy-five to eighty year old women flirt with me. “I’m going to bingo tonight at the V.F.W. Maybe I’ll see you there.”

Senior men chuckle and make references to Tommy Dorsey music while shaking their heads and saying, “Peanuts Hucko played a mean clarinet, if you know what I mean.”

I don’t know what they mean!

Today, while standing in line, a senior said to me: “Are you a snowbird or a full-timer?”

Me: “Neither. I’m not retired I’m just here for vacation.”

Senior: “What? When are you going to retire? You can’t put it off forever, you know.”

Me: “I’m not putting it off, I’m only 54 years old.”

Senior: (Looks me over carefully and with a slight amount of sadness and disbelief.) “That’s too bad.”

I guess it’s probably best if I don’t talk to strangers.



Sunday, December 23, 2012

The Christmas Presents Call


If there’s a wrapped present in the house the mystery of “what-could-it-be?” is more than Rachel can withstand.  The present calls, it teases, it beckons Rachel.  She tries to go about her business and think of other things but the present whispers, sparkles and winks. 

I can’t hear it.  You wouldn’t be able to hear it either.  But it’s tuned to a frequency that Rachel can hear and it says, “Wouldn’t you love to know…?  Open me and you can find out.”

Ultimately, it’s too much.  She’s only human, after all.  The wrapping paper is torn and the present is revealed.

If only the thrill of the present itself could match the thrill of the anticipation.

The King of Kings Lying In A Manger Says "I Love You!"


Jesus had to humble himself and be a human being in order to serve as a sacrifice for human beings.  In other words, He had to be human so that we could be forgiven; so that we could have eternal life.  The humility of Jesus is another aspect of His love for us.  So, when we think of the King of Kings lying in a manger as a humble baby, remember that is another way of God saying to us, “I love you!”

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Negotiating Change With God's Wisdom


The question is not whether there will be some types of changes in our lives—there will be change, count on it.  The question is whether or not we will negotiate the changes with God’s help and wisdom.


Friday, December 21, 2012

The Enigma Known As Shaky Pete -- Video



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End Of The World Chatter


Ironically, all this chatter about the end of the world brings to my mind the idea of eternity which tells us that while the end of our physical life on earth will happen our personal existence will continue forever.  Now, keep in mind that “forever” will tend to continue on for quite a while, so, where we spend eternity is worthy of our thoughtful, careful, prayerful consideration.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Opening Presents Early


Because of our busy schedules over the next few days right up to Christmas Eve and Christmas day, my family enjoyed a lovely dinner tonight and then gathered together and opened our Christmas presents.  It was a warm, caring, special time that included two large dogs loudly chewing on bones.   (You know that loud chewing enhances almost any experience, don’t you?)

You might be saying, “Wait a minute, Dan!  How is it possible that you’ve opened up presents already?  Does Santa come to your house earlier than everyone else’s home?”

The answer is, “Not usually.”

But this year I negotiated a special deal with Santa for an early delivery.  He does this on occasion with certain people; if “you punks will grease the wheels.”  (That’s his phrase and it reveals a side of Santa that people don’t typically see.)

Now, the presents are opened and we’re sitting back and enjoying this wonderful family time together….  Which means that we’re each in separate rooms with electronic devices and I’m typing strange thoughts to post online for my amusement.

And… hopefully… for your amusement, too.


Exclusive Truth Claims


I read a post from a friend recently in which she quoted a person who disagreed with her regarding the Christian faith.  The person who disagreed with my friend stated that one of the reasons he does not like Christians is because they claim to be right.  He went on to say that he is fighting against “the idea that one faith is right and therefore all others are wrong.”


Here is a comment, with a few edits, that I wrote in response to my friend’s post:

I hesitate to comment on this post.  I’m more inclined to simply pray as you have asked us to do.  But your [acquaintance] makes a statement that reveals a misunderstanding that I think is worth pointing out just because it is so common.

He makes the statement that what he is fighting against is “the idea that one faith is right therefore all others are wrong.”  However, by making that statement he is doing the very thing that he claims to be fighting against.  He is suggesting that he is right in his stance and therefore you and all Christians who hold that the truth claims of our faith are correct (based on the teachings of the Bible) are wrong.

One of the intellectual tactics used against Christians is to accuse them of making exclusive truth claims.  That’s a strong charge in our pluralistic culture.  In reality, though, every religion makes exclusive truth claims.  All of the religions of the world make claims which they hold to be true and, yet, their claims contradict claims which are taught by other religions.  When they do that, they are saying, “we’re right because we hold that our position is true.”  If they are correct—if their position is true—then it excludes the contradictory claims of the other religions from being true. 

Contradictory claims cannot both be true.  This is a logical reality regarding the nature of truth, whether we like it, or not.

And, moreover, this does not just apply to religions.  Any individual who makes a statement and claims that it is true is presuming to exclude from truth everyone who holds a position that contradicts his claim.  So, again, your [acquaintance] is surely suggesting that he’s correct in the position that he holds or else he wouldn’t have written this note to you.  But his position—if it is correct—excludes your beliefs from being true.  He’s making EXCLUSIVE truth claims.  But according to his rules—the cause that he says he’s fighting for—he’s not supposed to do that.  Right?


Reach Out To Others This Season

This piece was run in today's Southtown Star Newspaper...


Reach out to others this season
During the holiday season, there is typically a lot of talk about spending time with family and other loved ones. Many people get together to share meals, exchange gifts, attend church services and other holiday events.
All of this is, of course, very nice, but for some people, holidays can actually be a painful time, particularly from a relationship standpoint. The emphasis on relationships at this time of year is an unwelcome reminder for some, and their loneliness is magnified.
I don’t write this letter to put a damper on your festivities. I truly hope you’re experiencing joy and happiness, and I’m all in favor of festivities! However, it seems reasonable to encourage all of us to take a moment to think about folks we may know who could be included in our holiday celebrations.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we reached out a hand of friendship, fellowship and love to a neighbor or co-worker or other friend and helped them feel appreciated and to experience a little extra joy? Thinking of others is surely in keeping with the spirit of Christmas.
Dan Marler
First Church of God
Oak Lawn




Wednesday, December 19, 2012

When Are We Happy?


Research on the subject of happiness has discovered that people are usually most happy and joyful when they are engaged in some type of meaningful work or project in which they lose track of time and are fully challenged.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Wrestling With Evil -- Audio Podcast


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Peace Can Be Rooted In Something Stable and Unchanging


The sense of peace and contentment we experience in life does not have to be circumstance dependent.  It can be rooted in something stable and unchanging.  It can be rooted in the goodness, strength, sufficiency and presence of Christ.


Monday, December 17, 2012

Christmas Shopping On A Monday


Monday is my day off and I chuckled as I drove to the store to do a little Christmas shopping.  “Ha. Ha. I can get my shopping done on a Monday when everyone else is at work and the stores will be empty!”  I actually patted myself on the back while I was driving.

(By the way, if you pat yourself on the back while you’re driving keep at least one of your hands on the wheel or it’s possible that you’ll take out someone’s mail box.  …At least, that’s what I’ve heard.)

Then I got to the store… and I wasn’t laughing anymore.  Apparently, everyone—and I mean everyone—now has a day off on Monday.

I stopped patting myself on the back and stood in long lines instead.

Moral of the story?  Do your Christmas shopping on a Monday.  But make it a Monday in August.

Getting Loving, Honest Feedback


It’s impossible to see ourselves with complete objectivity.  That’s why it’s helpful to have a loving, honest, insightful friend or coach give feedback.  (It’s also nice if the feedback was requested rather than being unsolicited.



Friday, December 14, 2012

E-Flash From Dan - School Shootings, Sadness


Dear E-Flash Friends;

My heart breaks with sadness and I have tears in my eyes as I write these words.  Like many of you I’ve been watching coverage of the school shootings that occurred today in Newtown, Connecticut. 

I keep shaking my head and saying, “How could he do this to children?”

I’m thinking about families who sent a child off to school this morning and because of the unimaginable wickedness and evil of this deranged person their precious lives have been taken and the lives of these families have been irrevocably altered.  Certainly, there are no adequate words to describe their pain.  I am praying for them and I know you are, too.

“Lord have mercy and somehow bring love, support, strength, peace and hope to these families in the midst of this horrendous tragedy.  We grieve.  We are thankful that you welcome these young ones into your loving arms.”

Love and blessings,

Dan

What I Overheard...


I had to cover my mouth to keep from laughing out loud a few moments ago when I overheard a senior citizen at the table next to mine say this, “____ is a nice person and he has a good heart…
...But I would never trust him at my house.”
(I know, I know, I shouldn’t be listening to his conversation, but he’s sitting 4 feet away from me and I couldn’t avoid hearing him.)

When's The Last Time You Had A Holiday?


“Historically, a holiday was a ‘holy day,’ an intrinsically valuable, special, active change of pace in which, through proactive play and recreation, you refreshed your soul.” – Moreland & Issler.  By that definition of the word, when’s the last time you actually had a holiday?


Dan and Vic Podcast for 12/14/12 -- Audio Podcast


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Thursday, December 13, 2012

When People Resort To Name-Calling

If you have a disagreement with someone and the person resorts to name-calling, there's a good chance the person cannot actually support their position with facts.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

We Never Know What Others Are Dealing With


After many years of offering counsel and a listening ear to others I have come to realize that there are always things going on in people’s lives that we don’t know about—sometimes there will be painful, stressful, difficult things happening that we don’t know about. I don’t say this to suggest that this gives people permission to behave any way they want, but I do say it to suggest that we be willing to extend patience, mercy and grace.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Jesus' Teaching Is From God -- Audio Podcast

John 7:14-19

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He Heals The Brokenhearted


Can a broken heart be healed?  Yes.  God is merciful, kind, gentle and powerful.  He can restore and make whole things which we thought were irrevocably damaged.  “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3.  Turn to Him and find peace, healing, wholeness and joy.


Saturday, December 8, 2012

E-Flash From Dan - 12/8/12 - What's Coming Podcast


Dear E-Flash Friends;

You can hear what’s coming up on Sunday by clicking on the link and listening to the podcast.  It’s a fun one!

What’s Coming This Sunday 12/9/12 – Yia Yia Palooza Edition

Hope to see you Sunday!

Love and blessings,

Dan


Making God Laugh


I have to believe that God gathers some angels around Himself and they all look on and have a good laugh when they see me making plans yet again.

Friday, December 7, 2012

A Great Point of View


I’ve heard about and read about people who honestly look forward to troubles, problems, challenges and obstacles because they see these aspects of life as opportunities to grow, learn and stretch. They view difficulties as a chance to exercise leadership and come up with creative solutions and responses. I’m trying to learn to trust God and—with a strong sense of His presence—develop this point of view.

Thursday, December 6, 2012

What's Coming 12/09/12 - Yia Yia Palooza Edition - Audio Podcast

Check this one out, it's a lot of fun!

Dan Marler, Vic Baransky, Eunice Maze, Lisa Roule, Chris Donnelly and Stephanie Chiocca; all on the podcast!


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In Order To Have Hope...


In order to have a genuine sense of hope we have to believe that the future holds something good and positive. “It is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future.” Victor Frankl

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The World Hates Jesus? -- Audio Podcast

John 7:1-9

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What Are You Sowing?


No one, in the history of the world, has ever planted apple seeds and had a banana tree sprout up out of those seeds.  As the Bible tells us, “You will always harvest what you plant.” This is a very helpful truth to keep in mind because we are sowing seeds as we live life, with every action we take and every conversation we have.



Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Megan Maze Starring In "Footloose!" - Video

My niece, Megan, stars as Ariel in a local theater production of Footloose.



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Jesus' Love In Us


It’s true that some people behave in ways that make themselves very hard to love.  That’s why it’s helpful for followers of Jesus to remember that it is His love at work in us that we extend to others.  Jesus is capable of loving others in situations where we might be inclined to say, “Forget it!”

Monday, December 3, 2012

Christianity Is Not An Ornament


Christianity was never meant to be just an ornament or a label that we use to classify people.  It is a relationship with God through Christ that is intended to bring the influence, love, power and presence of God to every single aspect of our lives.



Sunday, December 2, 2012

Walk Closely With God Because We Don't Know What Will Happen


Question: Exactly what will happen today?  
Answer: We don’t know for sure.  
Therefore:  Walk closely with God and put your full trust in Him.

Saturday, December 1, 2012

Showing Up Honestly


There’s something powerful that happens when we present ourselves to the world with total honesty. But when we imagine the reaction of others to who we really are, it can scare us. It’s courageous and important for us to whisper a prayer, take a deep breath, and present ourselves honestly anyhow.