Let go of unfair expectations

High Expectations Are A Sign of Respect

One of the most disrespectful and demeaning things we can do to people is expect very little from them.  Low expectations often communicate this to a person:  “I don’t think you are capable of much.”  Even if that is not what is said, that may be what is subtly communicated by low expectations.

On the other hand, high expectations may push us to a place of discomfort, however, it is an indication of respect when we communicate this type of message to a person:  “You can do better than this.”

I know this can be a sensitive and delicate move in a relationship—and I will admit, I’m not particularly good at doing this—but sometimes we need to lovingly push people by expecting something more, something higher, of them.

Accepting That Life Is Hard In Order To Make Life Easier

Life is hard.  I’m not trying to be a downer, I’m just acknowledging something true.  We live in a fallen world and that means things will be difficult.  However, it’s helpful to know that when we accept the reality that “life is hard” it actually becomes a little bit easier.  Here’s what I mean: When we accept the reality that life is hard, our expectations adjust accordingly.  We know ahead of time that we will run into some obstacles and that understanding helps us cope with the obstacles a little better.

When we know that we are not alone, that makes the struggles of life more tolerable, as well.  So, remember, you are not alone.  “Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: For thou art with me...” Psalm 23:4

Do Our Expectations Affect Our Experience?

What do we really expect God to do?  Do we EXPECT Him to be active and involved in our lives?  Do we expect Him to transform us into the likeness of Christ?  Do we expect Him to empower us and give life through His Holy Spirit?  Is it possible that our expectations, or lack of expectations, may have some impact on what we actually experience?