Sometimes we step in to prevent people from dealing
with the consequences of their decisions, words and behaviors. This often
happens because, with kind intentions, we believe sparing the person from
painful consequences is the more compassionate and helpful response.
The truth, however, is that there will be times when
the most compassionate and helpful response—particularly from a long-term
perspective—will be to allow the person to face the consequences, even though
they will be difficult and painful. Consequences are one of life’s most
important forms of teaching and correction. Attempting to spare a person from
this form of teaching and correction is typically not compassionate and
helpful. It simply delays important learning.
And because the lessons have been postponed, sparing
the consequences now can sometimes bring on the possibility of more
significant, more severe consequences later.
